The Happy Place Diaries

A Happy Life starts with a Happy Place

Happiness: The State of being Happy.
Synonyms: Pleasure, Contentedness, Satisfaction, Cheerfulness, Cheeriness, Merriment, Merriness, Gaiety, Joy, Joyousness, Joviality, Jollity, Jolliness, Glee, Blitheness, Carefreeness, Gladness, Delight, Good Spirits, High Spirits, Light- heartedness, Good Cheer, Well-being, Enjoyment, Felicity.

Joy: A feeling of great pleasure and Happiness.
Synonyms: Great Pleasure, Joyfulness, Jubilation, Triumph, Exultation, Rejoicing, Happiness, Gladness, Glee, Exhilaration, Ebullience, Exuberance, Elation, Euphoria, Bliss, Ecstasy, Transports of delight, Rapture, Radiance.

crismeI had an interesting discussion yesterday with a dear friend of mine about Happiness. We talked about this journey that Teresa and I have set ourselves upon to have a Happy life. He expressed that he was not as much interested in finding happiness as he was in finding Joy. He thought this was an important distinction, I called it semantics. So I had to look it up.  It turns out that it can be a matter of semantics.. or… a matter of perception.  You see, my friend is a great guy and a Godly man.  His perspective, while we both see the same thing is viewed through the lens of Grace.  I hope I am not over simplifying this, but when I think Happy and all that it mean in our lives, he see’s Joy.  After looking at the synonyms for both words the appear to be interchangeable.  It will come down to what you are feeling or looking for as you seek Happiness or Joy.  I can totally see where he is coming from because I know him.
Good Spirits and Light Heartedness are all well and good for him… but being Elated and having a feeling of Exhilaration are much, much better.  And don’t we all want that. Everyone that knows me knows that I love to laugh, joke, and have a great time.  They also know that my friends are a big part of what makes me happy.  It is exhilarating to have wonderful people in my life that make me happy.
As we entered this “Retirement stage” of my life I took stock of the way we lived our life.  I have mentioned before that the Happy Place Diaries is not our attempt at finding Happiness, rather it is our quest to keep our lives Happy.  And that requires us to know what that looks like (our vision of happiness).  As we talked about our life and what we want we went to the definition of Happiness and looking the synonyms we loved what we saw.  It fits us.
Happiness and Joy go hand and hand.  After our little discussion last night I can’t help but think of this like a steak from Sizzler or a steak from Ruths Chris Steak house.  They are both steak, but one is a better cut, much better flavor, and just the thought of it makes your mouth water.  They are both good and fit, but Joy is taking Happiness to the next level.
So maybe in a few years we will start the Joy Place Diaries.. a Journey to a Joyful life… or we keep being happy with the life we have.. Content with who and what we are and we find Joy in that.
We are blessed to have friends like this.  He brings Joy into my life and I am glad we had some fantastic talk last night.
I hope that you all are finding Happiness and Joy in your lives.
Your thoughts are welcome.

We spent our 27th Wedding Anniversary at the Oregon Coast this past weekend.  It was a typical February at the coast.  Sun, Rain, a little Snow.. you know.. typical Oregon February weather… but nothing to stop us from having a wonderful weekend.  We pulled the RV down to Cape Lookout State Park, one of our favorite State Parks.  It was quiet and fairly empty this time.  A couple groups were camping in the Yurts at the park, but the RV spots were wide open.
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We got a break on Saturday and the sun came out.  We spent about two hours walking on the beach letting the dogs run and have some fun.  Friday night we went into Pacific City to the Pelican Brewery for a nice dinner to celebrate 27 years together.  The setting was beautiful and the meal was wonderful.  My Sister and Brother in Law brought their RV down also and joined us in our celebration.  This is their 27th year also, but they will celebrate in June.
AkOw0W1nTD+EiDtkGofebwWe went into Tillamook and picked up a few things that we needed, things that we could have got at home, but hey we were out.  We did make a trip to the Tillamook Country Smoker store.  We love their meat sticks and jerky and the prices at the factory store can not be beat.

The rest of the weekend we spent playing games and just relaxing.  We enjoy just being out and spending time together and with friends.  There is something about being in the RV for us that is wonderful.  We are automatically put in relax mode when we hook up and drive away with the Passport in tow.
A wonderful way to spend the weekend and celebrate 27 years with the love of my life.. yep.. Happiness!

analyticsI would like to start this by saying Thank you to everyone that has paid us a visit, left a comment, and started following this Blog.
We started this blog at the end of October 2018.  The intent was to document our Journey.  I was quickly approaching my retirement date and wanted to have a place to share our Journey as we started a new chapter in our lives.
It’s been 4 months since we started.  This is the 56th post and the numbers are in.
65 of you are following the blog via WordPress.  but it looks like we are gaining some traction with the blog views.
In 2018 we had 626 views from 337 visitors.  134 of you liked what you saw and 5 even left a comment.
In the two months of 2019 we have already seen some growth which leaves us motivated to keep it up and share away!
507 views so far from 309 visitors with 58 likes but already 6 comments.
Ok.. why share those numbers?  I don’t know.
Seriously.  It is not about money or fame, it is about sharing.  We don’t make money on this site and even though we became an Amazon Affiliate and encourage people to visit Amazon using our link.. that money..when we make some will all be going to charity.
So what’s with the numbers.  It’s about exposure.
The more numbers the higher you rank on the internet search engines and thus, more traffic is driven your way.  If we are going to share.. we want to share big!
So, while it’s not about the numbers.. it helps when we know that we are in fact reaching an audience that is along with our Journey.
I just thought it was interesting to see our blog grow in just a few months.  I am curious to see how it grows over the next 2 months as we reach our 6 month mark.. and then again at the end of this year.
Just like the blog we are watching our Youtube Channel as it grows… Extremely slowly.. but from 4 subscribers to 24 (at the time of this post).  Not monumental, but hey at least some one is watching.  I am sure at some point it will get traction also as we get better with our content and production.  Either way.. it’s about sharing our story and having some fun with it.
Thanks again for coming along.
If you are new here.. consider following the blog and check out our Youtube Channel.  And join the community by leaving us a comment.
Thanks again.
Have a Happy Day!

 

 

 

TreadmillEMFads and Diets come and go.. We have never really been able to stick to them, mainly because we do not see them as sustainable, or the food tastes like card board, or yeah… I’ll say it.. we lack the discipline to follow through with it.
Since November we have been on a quest to get a little healthier, loose some weight and in general get fit.  It’s been a struggle for me, Teresa has been doing a great job.  She found a program for her that is working and is super motivated to shed the weight.  While I am motivated, getting the weight off has been a struggle.  I tried a running app on my phone.  It was extremely hard for me to keep up with, and while I liked the program, it was too hard and I could not get the momentum to maintain the pace.  I am the kind of guy that likes to see results, even if they are small gains, it is tough for me to fight loosing battles.  The running app became a loosing battle for me and I lost motivation.  Teresa on the other hand has been steadily on a walking routine.  So I decided that if it is working for her it could work for me.  We go to the gym every day together and so joining her walking regimen seemed like a good fit.  I started two weeks ago doing her program and getting on board with her eating habits.
Going with the Meat and Green diet seems to be making strides.  2 pounds down and it is food worth eating and an exercise program that I can keep up with.
The brisk walking pace, cutting out a bunch of sugary junk, and going easy in the “extras” the results are looking good… so far.
I have told myself that this is it…. I have to stay the course and maintain motivation.  If I do, I will see the reduction in weight and get fit to meet my goals!
Fads and Diets may come and go.. but what is important to me getting healthier.  If it’s important it moves up on the must do ladder… And I’m climbing it!
Have a Happy Day!

17201265_10211096623424936_6421052433514078069_nWater seeks its level… and so it is with friendships.
I grew up in an Army family.  We moved every three years whether we wanted to or not.  Where my Dad went we followed.  It was just life and to my siblings and I it was totally normal.  Everyone in our friendship circles were in the same boat.  We all had to make new friends every three years and with few exceptions we never saw one another again.  We moved about half way through my Senior year of High School.  I won’t lie, it sucked. Because of our rotation I had actually been at the same High School since I was a Freshman.  Needless to say, when we got to our next place, we made some new friends, I graduated from High School, then I left again, this time for the Army myself… where I started the process all over again.
In 1988 I finally settled down, met my new best friend and made the decision that this was it, I was planting roots.  The Army took me away a few more times, but by and large we had settled down.  After we got married and made the decision that we wanted our kids to grow up in a “hometown”.
It was fun to watch them grow up and make friends, friends that they still have today.  It all seems so normal.  And as we settled in, we made friends, friends that we love to be with and share our lives with.  These people add to our happiness.
Our friends, family, and people who come and go from our lives all add to our happiness.  True friends that we laugh, cry, and share with are all part of what makes us happy.  We have many friends, few close friends, and lots of people that make up the circle which brings happiness to us.  Through Scouting, I have a ton of friends, many of them I consider family, others I just love to be around.  Through other aspects of our lives we have made friends that are always there and we love to be with.  And our family, maybe because of the way we grew up together is close.  Our family had to circle the wagons every three years and start from square one.  So we adapted to being close to one another.  My Sister (she’s the blonde in the picture) is now one of my closest friends… and we RV together all the time.
So the Happiness tip… make great friends and keep your family close.  The people in your life make a huge difference in your happiness.
I could not be more happy with our friends and family and hope that you have people in your lives that make you just as happy… and never forget the impact that you have on them.  You make them happy too.
Dennis Prager shared this;

“For much of my life, I, like most people, regarded the pursuit of happiness as largely a selfish pursuit. One of the great revelations of middle age has been that happiness, far from being only a selfish pursuit, is a moral demand.
When we think of character traits we rightly think of honesty, integrity, moral courage, and acts of altruism. Few people include happiness in any list of character traits or moral achievements.
But happiness is both.
Happiness — or at least acting happy, or at the very least not inflicting one’s unhappiness on others — is no less important in making the world better than any other human trait.
With some exceptions, happy people make the world better and unhappy people make it worse. This is true on the personal and global planes.”

You can read the whole article here.

I’ll leave you with this.  Baden Powell the founder of Scouting shared this:
“But the real way to get happiness is by giving out happiness to other people. Try and leave this world a little better than you found it and when your turn comes to die, you can die happy in feeling that at any rate you have not wasted your time but have done your best.”

Be Happy and be the person that brings happiness to others.  You will get more back than you can imagine.
Thanks for hanging out with us on our Journey.
Have a Happy Day!

16864200_10210956663766032_2572772815531985169_nStuff.. more Stuff… and even more Stuff… Happy yet?

Stuff has become a dominate factor in most people’s lives.  A need to keep up with the Jones’s and wealth being measured in things.  But it does not bring happiness.

OK… I like stuff to, but it is important to know that the stuff should be something that enhances our lives, not dictates how our lives should be lived.

Clutter has caused many of us to loose focus on what is important.  Again, this adds to the stress of life.  I do not suggest I am perfect…. but I do know how to identify and correct problems.  Over the last couple years, we have started the reduction of clutter in our lives.  Everything from financial stress to stuff.  We have learned that there is a line that when crossed adds to stress and reduces our happiness.

Happiness is a state of mind.  When the mind is cluttered it does not function well.  Remember back in the day when you crammed for tests… your mind was so full of information that it could never operate efficiently.  Yeah, you may have passed the test, but you could have done better had you taken it with a mind that was prepared and not stressed.  Our happiness is not dependent on other people.  Keeping up with the Jones’s just leads to chasing our tail.  Getting deeper in debt and ultimately living someone else’s dream instead of your own.  When we declutter and take on our own dreams we tend to be happier.

Now I know that this is not a one size fits all post.  Some people have a strong desire to have more stuff… it makes them happy… until it doesn’t anymore.

What I have seen is people that have a constant need to have the best and newest.  I remember in High School when everyone had to have an Izod shirt.  That little alligator was a status symbol that meant you were part of the “haves”.  I think my shirt had a turtle on it or something, we were not poor or ever went without, but I have never been a fashion guy.. just ask my wife, she’s happy when I match sox.  But having the alligator was keeping up with the Jones’s, and that made High School kids happy.  But then we grow up.  Those of us that no longer chase the alligator move on to happy lives.  Those that keep chasing it never seem happy.. and that is sad.

A reduction of clutter in the home is also a stress reducer.  The home is easier to maintain and allows for life to go one.  Have you ever seen the TV show “Hoarders”?  Those folks are never happy and life is a mess.  So reduce clutter in your life and you see happiness become real.

Stay tuned for our final part of this series on Friday… Your Happiness Tip #3.  People in your life!

Thanks again for hanging out with us here at our Happy Place.  A Place where Happiness is the plan!

Have a Happy Day!

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