Happiness Tip #1- Remove the Urgency

16864200_10210956663766032_2572772815531985169_nI heard a good saying the other day as I watched a YouTube video from the Keep Your Daydream channel that reminded me of a leadership principle that I have used all of my adult life.  Remove the Urgency.
Today’s post will the first in a series of posts of things that I believe lead to or add to a happy life.
So lets talk about Removing the Urgency.  For many people the urgency of a situation gets in the way of thinking about the resolution.  Removing the urgency allows one to reduce stress and anxiety over the situation.  For example, when on a recent trip we hooked up the city water and within seconds of turning the water on it began to shoot out of the bottom of the trailer.  You could hear water flowing into the pad and it was coming quick.  The immediate action was to turn off the water.  Rather than go into panic mode I removed the urgency.  What was the worst that could have happened and how did it effect the rest of our weekend?  At the end of the day what did not having water mean in the grand scheme of things?  The answers were simple and it removed the urgency from the situation.
First, the water was off and no longer flowing.
Second, there are shower houses and sinks at the campground, so we still could take showers etc.
And finally, after a quick inspection of the trailer, there was no damage visible.
After a quick evaluation and removing the urgent need to get into “fix it” mode we discovered that the connection from the city water into the trailer had become disconnected.  An easy fix, but I know some people that would have packed up and called it a weekend, taken their trailer into the shop and disrupted their weekend.
Removing the urgency takes the stress away from the situation.  Stress is a major contributor to people being unhappy.  If we can do things to eliminate stress we can be happier.
Now I know that there are people out there that absolutely can not function without stress.  And I have never seen them to be happy.  I have seen that people that do not have the ability to remove the urgency from a situation often spiral out of control in decision making.  I have seen this in combat, I have seen this in wilderness first aid situations, and I have seen this in peoples everyday lives.  Simple situations become mountains that they can not cross.
Removing the Urgency from a situation can be applied to any if not all situations in our lives.  But it takes a willingness to not want stress and make things simple.  Simplicity is the key.  It allows you to declutter your thoughts and see things for what they are in the midst of a crisis.  We could have panicked in our water situation, but understanding that there was no need.  Panicking or creating energy around the situation would only lead to stress.
How many of you have had a flat tire.  There really is no need to panic or stress.. just change the tire and be on your way.  If there are more issues address them as needed.  But don’t let the situation get the best of you.  It will never fix things in the long term and only add stress.
So… The first part of being happy this week is to reduce stress by removing the urgency of the situation.
On Wednesday we will discuss reducing clutter.  Stay tuned!
Thanks for checkin’ in with us.
Have a Happy Day!

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